Out of all of the difficult people that we encounter, the "Fault-Finder" can be one of the most frustrating. This is the chronic complainer, the blamer, the negative thinker who can shoot down any idea or option with a single bullet.
I am well-acquainted with the "Fault-Finder" because I have been accused of being one myself (an accusation with which I beg to differ, of course). True, like the "Fault-Finder" I have a tendency to see why something can't happen or won't work more readily than to see why it might...but for a born-pessimist like myself it takes significant effort to change thought patterns like these. I'm finding it to be worth the effort though. Why? Well, I'm becoming a happier person, not to mention a far less annoying one. (For more on pessimism, optimism and happiness read The Pursuit of Happiness)
So, now we know that a pessimistic attitude may be behind fault-finding behavior. But what might this behavior look like? How do we recognize him among our friends, family or even within ourselves? (Read more....)